In 1988, when I first moved to Chicago, I quickly realized I had to master one important skill: parallel parking. Now that I live in Florida, it turns out I need to master something new, the back-in park.
People here back into parking spots a lot. There are even signs and messages on parking apps letting you know when you can’t back it in.
At first, I didn’t see the need. Then, one dark January morning, I was running late to yoga. I passed the studio and needed to grab the only open spot—quickly. To do it, I had to reverse and then back it in. I managed it-- barely. Since then, I’ve been practicing, and let’s just say that there’s room for improvement. But I’m not giving up!
Creating New Pathways
Neuroscientists say when we try something new—like back-in parking for me—we’re literally developing a new brain pathway. It keeps us healthier, happier, and more adaptable.
But let’s be honest. It’s easier to keep improving at things we already know. For me, that would be reorganizing my silverware drawer for the fourth time.
Find the Ease in the Challenge
I work with leaders who are navigating massive, long-term transformations. These aren’t quick wins—they take months or years. The people doing this work are introducing entirely new ways of working. It’s complex, ongoing, and sometimes overwhelming.
In yoga, my instructor often reminds us to “find the ease in the challenge.” I think about one of my clients who models this beautifully. She reflects, re-prioritizes, and re-adjusts the plan whenever new issues pop up. And she brings that same calm to her team. She’s helping her team get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
Instead of just “putting out fires,” she makes space for humor, humanity, and connection. She understands that people need to be reminded that we’re in this together. That laughter and small moments of encouragement make the hard parts more bearable. She checks in, sends kind notes, and helps others feel seen—even when she’s swamped.“A less in-tune leader might say, ”I don't have time for that." But they're missing the opportunity to energize, build trust and lead with impact."
Leaders, here are your takeaways this month:
1. Do your reps — When you’re trying something new, don’t judge the first try. Repetition builds confidence. (This applies to back-in parking and giving feedback to your team.)
2. Slow down to speed up — When fires arise, pause and reflect before charging ahead. Adjusting the plan is not weakness—it’s wisdom.
3. Add ease to the agenda — Joy and connection aren’t extras. They’re fuel. Lead with encouragement and make space for lightness, even during intense periods.
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Key Points
- Growth is uncomfortable before it becomes familiar. Whether learning a new skill or leading through change, confidence comes from showing up, practicing, and giving yourself permission to improve over time.
- Great leadership adds humanity to hard work. Leaders who pause, adjust, and bring encouragement help their teams feel supported, connected, and capable—even in the middle of uncertainty.